Nurturing Yourself So You Can Nurture Others

As foster and adoptive parents, showing love to your children is often the top priority. But it’s just as important to care for yourself. Parenting—especially in foster and adoptive roles—can be both deeply rewarding and incredibly demanding. Children with childhood trauma can command a lot of your attention and that is often done through big emotions and behaviors. Burn-out for parents is a real thing! Taking time for self-love and self-care not only benefits you but enhances your ability to show up as your best self for your family.
Here’s how to take care of YOU so you can continue to pour into your children.
1. Find Your Support System
Having a strong support system is crucial. Whether it’s a support group, trusted friends, or family members, connecting with people who understand your journey can make a world of difference. We recommend joining groups like our Sequoia Family Adoption Group or Second Nurture Foster Group—both of which offer community, advice, education and understanding for parents navigating adoption and foster care journeys.
2. Celebrate Small Wins
Parenting is full of ups and downs, and parenting kids with high needs can feel like a roller coaster! Take time to recognize and celebrate even the smallest victories. Whether it’s a successful family outing or a breakthrough in your child’s behavior, acknowledging these moments will remind you that the work you’re doing is both important and impactful. There is no such thing as “perfect”.
3. Prioritize Relaxation and Fun
It’s easy to overlook your own needs in the busy whirlwind of parenting, but self-care is essential. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s reading a book, taking a walk, or enjoying a hobby. Rest and personal enjoyment recharge your batteries and help you feel more present and engaged with your family.
Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity. By prioritizing your well-being, you’ll be better equipped to give your children the love, support, and care they need.
4. Keep Your Focus on the Finish Line
Parenting in foster or adoptive roles is a marathon, not a sprint. Like coaches who win games by focusing on each individual play, take each day as it comes. Focus on small, intentional steps that contribute to long-term progress. Some days will be tough, but remember, this is a long journey, and every moment of care and love you put into your family has a lasting impact.